William Howatt Ph.D., Ed.D.
2014 © Howatt HR
Everyone can master a grief but he that has
Grief is a normal response to a loss that consumes physical and emotional resources. The stages of grief are similar to those of death, divorce, break-ups, and recovering from addictive disorders. The purpose of this tool is to facilitate awareness of where you are today in the grieving process. It is normal for you to feel extremely tired, become withdrawn, have difficulty concentrating, imagining a loved one’s voice, and experiencing symptoms of depression (i.e., sadness, loss of appetite, uncontrollable crying). Depending on the culture, grieving up to a year is not unusual, though many who grieve will find some sense of change in their grieving within six months. Note, however, that grief symptoms may return for brief periods around special days (i.e., anniversaries).
one-third of those who grieve will show symptoms of depression within a
month of the loss. For this reason, it is important to be proactive and
embrace grieving as a normal way to heal. However, if the grief is as
intense after two weeks as it was at the moment of loss, reaching out to
grief counselling through your EAFP or local mental health providers is
recommended. A trained grief counsellor will assist you to normalize and
move through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s five stages of grief. As Kübler-Ross
observed, "when you learn your lessons, the pain goes
Core Goal: To provide you with an awareness of where you are in the grieving process. Some people find it a comfort to have a benchmark and to repeat this tool in the coming weeks and months to show that you are on the path to healing. You can also take your results from this tool to a grief counsellor if you feel you are getting stuck in one of the five stages.